Check out the warning signs listed on this web site to see if any of them fit your friend’s relationship. Understand the danger that your friend may be in. In many cases, your friend fears for her life. She may want her children to grow up with both parents. She may feel guilty and believe that the abuse is her fault; or she doesn’t want to cause any “trouble” for the family. Sometimes a victim’s self-esteem is so damaged by the abuse that she thinks she can’t make it on her own. Or, she may just want the violence to end, not the relationship. If you suspect abuse there are ways you can help.